Argumentativeness seems to be part of human nature. Some of us like to argue for the fun of it, others do it to prove a point. If we argue for these reasons, it becomes unnecessary. The Bible clearly explains, as we will see, that we should not argue about foolish things. So let us begin this study.
Paul states in Philippians 2:14 that we should, “Do everything without complaining or arguing.” We complain when we don’t want to do something and we argue when we disagree. Why? Well, you can say it’s what the world does, but as Christians we are not supposed to be of the world (Romans 12:2).
Paul teaches Timothy an important lesson in arguing and quarreling. In 2 Timothy 2:23-24 Paul says, “Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil,”. Now, these “controversies” could be “unlearned questions” as the KJV puts it. Meaning that questions such as “Does the universe end?” or “Is a tomato a fruit or a vegetable?” are foolish and controversial questions that we do not need to argue over. Let’s remember the circumstance with Timothy here also. Timothy was starting a church in Ephesus and Paul is guiding him in the right direction. Paul gives him this information because he knows quarrels cause division. Timothy is starting a church not ending one. Paul knows this so he warns Timothy about these foolish arguments that can cause division, so there is no quarreling among them.
Solomon also gives a few words on how to end an argument before it even starts. In Proverbs 15:1 Solomon writes, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” If we reply in the opposite direction in which someone was trying to take a conversation, then this can cause arguments. Tone is another big factor. But if we watch our words and be gentle with people they will not be as inclined to fight back. It is ok to voice our opinion. However, it is how we go about voicing our opinion that can get us in trouble.
There is a difference between arguing and discussing. If we are trying to make a case for our point of view, then we must discuss our differences, not argue about them. We must discuss in a gentle tone, fully understanding the other side’s viewpoint. If we are arguing and quarreling, nothing will ever get accomplished.
So as we can see, God is opposed to arguing. We are supposed to be different from the world, not the same. We should always try to end arguments and never try to start them. Let us always remember what is written in the book of Romans, “So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.”- Romans 14:19. We should not try to destroy and bring down, but rather make peace and build each other up.